The Expectations are are subject to constant updates and improvements; we therefore advise re-checking if you have any questions in the future.

 

OUR VALUES

We value (con)sensual exploration, playfulness and authentic vulnerability amongst like-minded souls. In order to create such a space, we actively practice non-judgemental openness, effective communication and self awareness to ensure the continuous growth of ourselves and our community.

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MEMBERS

LUDUS is for people of all genders and sexual preferences, who are 23 years or over and want to explore their sensuality/sexuality and kinks in an intimate safe space. It's for people who feel the desire to challenge, build connections, express themselves in ways that lie outside of the norm and crave a space where they can ground into their sensual/sexual power.

 

We are very specific with who we let into our realm since we value the safe space for our diverse group of members a lot. We only allow people in who we feel would be an addition to the realm, who understand the beauty in bringing different types of people together and have the same values as we do at LUDUS.

You can only become a member by completing and submitting the application form on our website. Keep in mind that submitting your membership application does not guarantee entry to the LUDUS community.

 

Once you are a member, you will have access to purchasing tickets to our events. We do our best to create a beautiful balance of a variety of people in our community, but the tickets to events are allocated on a first

come, first served basis.

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COMMUNITY

Our LUDUS community lives on Instagram. To keep our members and their experiences safe, we only allow accepted and active members on our Instagram profile. Inactive members will still be in our mailinglist and can become active again at any time by purchasing tickets to an upcoming event.

 

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LUDUS SPACE/EVENTS

To safeguard the intimacy and authentic connection of our members we do not allow more than 30 people to attend per event.

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LUDUS creates small, welcoming, intimate events with likeminded people, so you won't get lost in the crowd. Prior to the events we always create a group chat so that all attendees can get familiar, travel arrangements can be made and outfit ideas can be shared. If you feel nervous or shy, come talk to one of the hosts - either online on during the event. They are here to make you feel as comfortable as possible!

 

During our events you will share space with a variety of beautiful people of different genders, sexualities, ethnicities, body types  and experience levels who are open to connect and learn from each other. At every event we offer a different informational aspect connected to the theme of the party. 

We have a massage area with an in-house masseuse, a play area with plenty of tools & toys to explore, and a more socially focused dance & lounge area for you to enjoy the music and slow down. You can expect both cuddles & convos and whips & worship depending on your desires. 

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Events take place at a private secret location in Alkmaar, The Netherlands once every few months. 

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DRESS CODE

Before every event we share a mood board full of outfit inspiration with our members. Everyone's outfit needs to be considered lingerie, fetish or kink-wear. No casual clothing, denim, fancy dresses or leather jackets allowed!

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NEWBIES

We are open to all experience levels. We strive to create a space where people from different experience levels can connect, learn from each other and grow together. We encourage you to come with an open mind and not have too many expectations. Just relax, enjoy and if you need any help, or want to try something new, don't hesitate to ask someone! We are all here to learn, explore and connect.

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CONSENT

Asking for consent, and continuously checking in with someone while being intimate or playful, is extremely important in these spaces to make sure no boundaries are being crossed. Communication is healing, makes you feel seen, cared for and creates space to learn from each other. And frankly, enthusiastic consent and verbal communication about what you want is very sexy!

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Besides that it feels amazing to be sure someone is enjoying what you are doing, it also takes away the big risk that you will harm someone when you “just try”. Not everyone is able to say “don't do that” or “stop” due to past trauma or them freezing in the moment. This is why it's important to continuously check with someone if they are still down with what you are doing or if they would like to do something else instead.

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Keep in mind that consent can be revoked at any time. Just because someone wants to flirt, dance, kiss, cuddle, or get whipped, spanked, tied or choked - doesn't mean they want to do anything more or anything else. This is why the first rule of LUDUS is “ask, always!” This way people can express their sensuality/sexuality, love, affection, kinks and be present in the moment without fearing that their expression is mistaken for an invitation. 

 

SAFE WORD
We strongly encourage you to use safe words at our events, please discuss this word with your play partner(s) prior to engaging in play. If in doubt, please use the traffic light system: “red" means "stop", "yellow" means "proceed with caution", and "green" means "more, please!"

 

AFTERCARE

Aftercare is important because it continues the connection in a way that allows the body and brain to return to normal without feeling sadness and negativity after play. Being in a vulnerable state can drain ones energy and in order to walk away feeling good about the experience we need to take care of each other before, during and after play.

 

We highly recommend that you establish any aftercare needs your play partner(s) may have prior to playing. Aftercare can potentially look like providing your partner(s) with water, a snack, words of affirmation, or spending time cuddling. Aftercare looks different for everyone so never assume what your play partners’ needs are!

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LUDUS IS NOT A SEX PARTY!
We are an open party where you can explore your sensuality/sexuality, get kinky and be free in your expression, but intercourse is never the goal at LUDUS.

 

For many people, intercourse can be a shortcut to intimacy. Intercourse is familiar, which makes it easy to (over)sexualize people and situations. We like to challenge our members to explore all the things around sex and to find alternative ways to connect with each other and themselves. 

By having a mutual understanding amongst our members that intercourse is never the goal of any connection made during the events, we create a space where we can all be present in the moment and not focus on "what might come next” or a potential climax. We feel there is much more to gain in our space than sex and/or intercourse. Sometimes we need restrictions to open up a realm of new possibilities - and with the right intentions, our space allows you to deepen your understanding of the power of your own sensual/sexual energy!

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PHONES
Phones are not allowed at our events in order to safeguard the privacy of the members and the intimacy of the space. We want all attendees to be fully present, connect with each other and feel completely free to express themselves. 

If you need to answer a text message or check in with loved ones, do so in the changing area.

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PHOTOGRAPHY
We either provide disposable cameras for our members to take photos, or have a photographer present to capture the night. The photos are only shared within the active LUDUS community - hence why you can't find a photo gallery on our website.

 

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HOUSE RULES

You can find all the house rules here! Take your time to read them carefully as breaking them can result in getting banned from our community.

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